Bas aise hi ....

अछा लगता है आजकल अकेले रहना।  कुछ वक़्त मिल रहा है सब काम ख़तम होने के बाद सोचने का ,चुप रहने का। सात  साल कि  शादी के बाद पहली बार है।  मगर सही है।

 पिछले काफी दिनों  सी अकेली हो गयी हूँ।  राहुल काफी बिजी रहते हैं।
थोडा बहुत  टाइम निकल लेते हैं।  मगर फिर भी पहले छोटी से छोटी बात उनसे कहती थी अब सोचना पड़ता है।  इतने से टाइम में कौनसी बात ज्यादा ज़रूरी है।  बच्चों के पीछे, घर  के काम  में दिन निकल जाता है  रात आते ही अकेलापन खाता है।  किस से बात करूं  दिन  भर बच्चों ने  कैसी  शरारत  करी  किसे  बाटूँ।  थक गयी हूँ किसके  कंधे पर सर  रखके  कहूँ  " आज तो बस  थका  दिया  बच्चों ने "।


सब कहते है जब बड़ी पोस्ट पर पोहंच  जाते  है  तो ऐसा ही होता है।  शायद आदत पड़  जाएगी।
कितना  अजीब  है एक  इंसान  के इर्द गिर्द  आपकी ज़िन्दगी घूम रही है  वोः  अगर पास नहीं है तो  अकेला  लगता है।  मगर   आदत  खुद ही डाली  तब  नहीं सोचा।

शायद अछा ही है खुद के साथ  भी बात  करना अछा लगता है.

गुलजार  साहब का  कुछ लिखा हुआ पढ़  रही थी अछा  लगा इसलिए लिख  दिया।


बे - यारो  मददगार  ही काटा  था  सारा  दिन 
कुछ  ख़ुद  से  अजनबी  सा 
तन्हा , उदास -सा ,
साहिल  पे  दिन  बुझा  के मैं ,लौट आया  फिर वहीँ ,
सुनसान -सी  सड़क  के खाली  मकान में  !
दरवाजा  खोलते ही , मेज पैर रखी  किताब  ने,

हल्के  से फड़फड़ा  के कहा ,
"देर  कर दी  दोस्त "

For my Loving son ArJun

Ever since you came to existence I knew that it's you. 

When I was 6 months pregnant I felt you have changed me. I have become more calmer and peaceful. You and I share a different bond. I smile when I see you running to me with open arms. I love it when you cuddle with me while sleeping. You have loved me a lot Arjun.

I would want to be with you with each and every phase of your life. Never forget That I love you.Life is filled with hard times and good times.Learn from everything you can and be the man that I know you can be.

To you Papa.

To you Papa.

Jab se hosh sambhala tha apko dekha tha ek strong anchor ki tarah hum sabke liye. Ek akela aadmi hathras se lekar gurgaon tak. Hum sab bachon ko woh har cheez di jo aapke bas mein thi best education se lekar best husbands tak. Mere liye woh pal bohat emotional tha jab shaadi ke din wali subah aap  apne hathon mein tel lekar aye the meri mehndi per lagane ke liye jisse woh aur gehri ho jaye. Aur rote jaa rahe the. Mujhe nahin lagta mein ek achi beti ban paayi papa magar apko bohat miss karti hoon..meri roz ki life mein koi change nahin aya hai magar ek bharosa ki "papa to hai hi " woh chala gaya hai. . Sab kuch badal gaya hai apke jaane ke baad. Jis family ki roots the aap woh toot gayi hai papa.

I wish kuch miracle ho jaye aur mere papa wapas aa jaye i wish yeh sab ek sapna ho. I can do anything to bring you back papa. I MISS YOU A LOT. Aap jahan bhi ho ache se ho aur agar mujhe sun sakte ho to am sorry papa for not being with you when you needed us most and for not being a good daughter.

a random thought which comes very frequently

aaj jab ranu aur arjun ko ladte dekhti hoon to lagta hai abhi ladte hain baad mein miss karenge ek doosre ko. mein bhai aur didi kitna ladte the saath mein. khaas kar mein aur bhai. pen,mangoes, chocolate                               , ice cream har chee per hathapai tak ho jaati thi.

magar ab ek doosre ki choti baat bhi mind kar lete hain. bhai to jaise bohat door chala gaya hai aur bilkul badal gaya hai. papa ke jaane ke baad choti si family reh gayi hai meri mayke ke naam per didi bhaiya aur maan.Didi ke saath to ab aisa ho gaya ki woh meri best friend ban gayin hai magar bhaiya pata nahin kyun bilkul badal gaya hai.

jab sab saath the tab sab acha aur sahi tha tab sab khush the jaise jaise hum sab log ek ek karke alag gaye sab badal gaya papa sabko chod kar chale gaye. Mummy rehte hue bhi hum sabke saath nahin hai.

I wish agar miracles hote hain to kuch miracle ho aur sab pehle jaisa ho jaye.

Chetan Bhagat’ s Article in TOI:

Chetan Bhagat’ s Article in TOI: 

Specially for Indian Women. Do Read it and 

share it with all the women you know..

Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I'm biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends - we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, don't ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn't like you? That's her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value you -tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbor may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain - stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the b world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don't want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world.

Cherish Womanhood!!

please share this to every woman you know...